The Konfidence Course · For parents who don’t see their kids every day

Raise outrageously Konfident kids — even when you don’t see them every day.

Self-paced lessons. The science behind them. And a system to help your kids build unshakeable self-trust — on the weeks they’re with you, and the weeks they’re not.

It’s not about how many hours you get. It’s what they watch you do with the ones you have.

I went through a divorce that was hell for me and hard on my kids. On the other side, my relationship with them is better than it ever was when I was married. It didn’t get better because I got everything right. It got better when I started working on me first. I’ll show you what worked, what didn’t, and how to do it on your schedule — whether you’re co-parenting, married, or somewhere in between.

I was a painfully shy kid who couldn’t say my R’s until sixth grade. If anyone talked to me, I blushed. Now I’ve built a community of over 300,000 and I speak on stages. I’ll show you exactly how, and dare you to do it with your kid.

The first 100 members get founding pricing

What have you been saving for “someday”?

“The heaviest burden a parent can give a child is the unlived life of the parent.”

Carl Jung

In my work with families, I’ve found that when I build up the parent’s confidence first, the kid’s follows.

Stop the voice that talks you out of things.

Stop handing your fears to your kid.

Start stacking proof you can trust yourself again.

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Sound familiar?

It shows up in you first.

When researchers study anxious kids, the same three things keep showing up. They overestimate danger, underestimate themselves, and talk down to themselves. For me, none of it was ever louder than when my home life blew up. I got more anxious and more self-critical. Then I saw it in my kids.

01 · Overestimating danger

The world feels bigger than it is.

You: don’t go for the things you know you should.

Your kid: holds back because they’re scared, not because they can’t.

02 · Underestimating yourself

You sell yourself short.

You: play smaller than you could.

Your kid: shrinks in groups when you know they can shine.

03 · Negative self-talk

The critic talks loudest.

You: second-guess what you said after you said it.

Your kid: talks down to themselves out loud.

Kids of anxious parents are up to seven times more likely to develop anxiety themselves.

The same research found that when parents change what they model, kids change with them. That’s why you go first.

Golda Ginsburg, PhD · Johns Hopkins

Why this exists

Parents want their kids to be confident, go for what they want, and put themselves out there. But they’ve quit doing it themselves.

I started doing one-on-one clarity calls with parents who were worried about their kids. The same pattern kept showing up: a kid who talks down to themselves, stops going for the things they want, and treats every failure like a verdict.

The longer I talked with the parents, the more I heard the same things in them. They’d stopped going after the goals they really wanted. Failure scared them as much as it scared their kids.

So we worked on the parent first. They started having different conversations with their kids, and things at home started to change.

But not every parent can spend a few thousand dollars on one-on-one coaching. So I built the Konfidence Course: the same principles I use with parents, plus a distilled version of every exercise for your kid.

The goal: every time your kid leaves your house, for school, sports or time with a co-parent, they leave with a little more trust in themselves. They go into the world with a little more Konfidence.

From parents like you

We asked one question: what would the biggest win be?

I asked my audience: if I was building a confidence course, what would the biggest win be? The answers were astounding. A lot of people had divorce-specific questions — so I wanted to give that answer in this course.

Replies from parents on the waitlist describing the biggest win they hoped for

These are replies from parents like you. If one of these sounds like you, this was built for you.

What changes

What you walk away with.

By the end of the course, you’ll have:

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Clarity on what you value, so the goals you chase are actually yours

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A real understanding of what confidence is, and the research on self-trust and what to do when you get stuck

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The awareness to stop putting a negative voice in your kid’s head

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A family culture of high standards and high support, and what that looks like on a Tuesday night

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A growth mindset your kid can lean on when things get hard, long after the course

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Scripts for talking with your kid about what your family believes, so you’re the first one they come to when something’s hard

Inside the course

Know what you’re actually going after.

Confidence built on someone else’s goals doesn’t last. Inside: how to listen to your heart again, and how to know your value so you never trade it.

Core Values

Shut up the voice that talks you out of things.

You can’t be confident while a voice in your head calls you stupid all day. Inside: how to find your inner critic and kill it, and the nightly routine that ends negative self-talk.

Compassion

Show up as the version of you that goes for it.

Comfort and comparison quietly drain your confidence. Inside: how to build an alter ego that does the brave thing when you’d rather shrink, for you and your kid.

Courage

Get better at hard things, and stop fearing failure.

Find the zone where practice feels good enough that you don’t want to stop. Inside: how to get lost in the work, how to turn every failure into feedback, and the power of “yet.”

Competence

Raise a kid who goes for it.

Guilt pushes most of us into protecting too much, or overcorrecting with pressure — especially when you only have them part of the week. Inside: how to hold high standards with high support, how to garden instead of sculpt, the words that become your kid’s inner voice, a family creed your kids can recite, a bedtime ritual that ends the day on a win, and the exact words for the hard moments.

Mentor Mastery

Also inside: a parent/child workbook for every module, and Konfidence Conversations, interviews with experts added to the course over time.

Let’s level set

Give the thing a chance.

You can’t give your kid confidence. But you sure as hell can show them what it looks like. Two things: an environment where confidence flourishes, and a parent they watch go after a dream, fall, and get back up. That’s what this course builds.

Your kid might roll their eyes the first time. You might feel silly doing the exercises yourself. Good. That’s the part that works.

I can’t hand you a copy-and-paste template, because confidence doesn’t work that way. Some exercises will land for your family and some won’t. That trial and error is how you find what actually works for yours.

No course will make anyone fearless. This one will give you both proof you can do hard things, and a way to keep collecting it long after you finish.

Raleigh doing confidence activities with his kids

The guy teaching you this

I’m Raleigh. I spent two years answering the wrong question first.

I wrote a book, The Creator’s Call, about what I thought was the most important thing to figure out in life: your purpose. Then I watched people read it, know exactly what they were meant to do, and not change a thing.

Knowing what you’re meant to do doesn’t matter if you don’t trust yourself to go after it. Every time I’ve been stuck in my own life, it was the same thing. I was scared to fail, and I didn’t trust myself enough.

So I went deep on what self-trust actually is. I used to think confidence was liking what I saw in the mirror that morning. It isn’t, and it isn’t being certain things will work out either. It’s trusting yourself, and you can’t trust someone you don’t know. That’s Konfidence with a K.

Today I’m a divorced dad of three, one reel with my son hit about 3 million views, and more than 300,000 parents follow along.

Confidence isn’t a mindset. It’s what happens after you do something real and watch it actually work.

Read this before you join.

This is for you if

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You hear your kid talk down to themselves and don’t know what to say back

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You know you play smaller than you should, and you don’t want to hand that to them

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You only have your kids part of the week, and you want that time to count

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Your kids are 7 or older, or you want to do it just for yourself

This is not for you if

You want a script that makes your kid confident by Friday

You want to assign it to your kid and stay out of it. You go first, every time.

You’re looking for therapy. This is skill-building, not treatment.

Questions

Before you join.

When does it open?

The waitlist gets in first, and the first 100 members get founding pricing. Join the list and you’ll hear before anyone else.

I already have the Konfidence Kickstart. How is this different?

The Kickstart is a quick start for you: a first taste of the parent-first approach. The course is the full system: all five shifts, step by step, with a kid-friendly way to bring every lesson home.

What if my co-parent isn’t on board?

You don’t need them to be. Everything in the course is about what you model and what you say during your time. Your kids will notice the difference, whatever happens at the other house.

Do I have to be divorced?

No. It’s built around the reality of a split schedule, but every lesson works in any family. If your kids split time between two homes, it was made with you in mind.

Is this only for parents with kids?

No. Every lesson is built for you. Each one comes with a kid-friendly way to talk about it at home, and you can use it or skip it. Plenty of people take the course just for themselves.

How young is too young to do it with my kids?

The lessons are for you, so your kids’ ages don’t limit what you get out of it. For the kid conversations, 7 and up works best. My twins are 8, and they understand most of it and enjoy it. Younger kids still get the most important part: watching you do it.

How much time does it take?

Five to ten minutes per lesson, at your own pace. Do the parent work on your weeks without them. Bring the kid conversations home on the weeks they’re with you.

Where does it happen?

Everything lives in Circle. It’s self-paced, so you start when you join and go at your own speed.

Is this therapy?

No. It’s skill-building, not treatment. If you or your kid are dealing with anxiety or depression that’s getting in the way of daily life, please talk to a professional. This can sit alongside that, not replace it.