Fail Around and Find Out
Opens Sep 21 · $97 early bird
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Parents only · 21 days · Starts September 28

Fail Around
& Find Out
Challenge

We tell our kids to go for it. Now it’s our turn.

The dream you keep talking yourself out of? Bring it. The book. The business idea. The art. The class. The part of you that got quiet somewhere between taking care of everyone else and getting through the week.

For 21 days, we’re going to take real steps toward something we want, and learn how to trust ourselves when those steps get messy. One meaningful project. Three daily practices. A room full of parents finding their way back to themselves. I’m doing it with you.

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Enrollment opens September 21. $97 early bird.

The calendar

How it flows

Mon, Sep 21
Enrollment opens. $97 early bird.
Wed, Sep 23
Price goes to $147.
Sun, Sep 27
Enrollment closes.
The reason

You’re the author of your life. It’s time to start writing again.

You know what your kids like. What they need. What they’re scared of. What you’d say if they wanted to try something and didn’t think they were good enough.

Then you get a little time to yourself, think about the thing you want to do, and hear a different voice entirely.

Maybe you’ve spent years putting yourself last. Maybe a divorce changed the shape of your life, and you’re still figuring out who you are in this version of it. Maybe you love being a parent but miss having something that belongs to you.

You’re allowed to love your kids and want more for yourself. And you’re allowed to begin before you know how it’s going to turn out.

What you’d tell them
Try.
You don’t have to be good at something before you begin.
One bad attempt doesn’t get to decide who you are.
What you tell yourself
Who am I to do that?
What if I’m terrible?
Maybe when things settle down.
The unlived life

What have you been saving for “someday”?

“Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on their environment and especially on their children than the unlived life of the parent.”
C. G. Jung

That line makes me think about all the things we hope our children will feel free to do. Express themselves. Take a chance. Make something. Be beginners. Build a life that feels like theirs.

I want those things for my kids. I want to practice them myself, too.

This is time for you to practice what you hope they’ll believe: I can want something, take a chance on it, and handle what happens next.

From the waitlist

We asked one question: what would the biggest win be?

Before enrollment opened, we asked the parents already on the waitlist what they’d want out of three weeks. These are their replies, exactly as they came in.

If one of these sounds like you, this was built for you. Every one of them is a project this challenge is designed to move.

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From ME

I’ve kept mine to myself for 18 months.

About a year and a half ago, I started writing poetry. I hadn’t written it before. It felt vulnerable. I didn’t feel qualified. And for the last 18 months, I’ve sat on it without sharing it.

It’s a strange feeling to care about something and immediately start making a case for why you shouldn’t do it. I’m not a poet. Who am I to make a children’s book?

During this challenge, I’m going to take one of those poems and work toward turning it into a children’s book. I don’t know how far I’ll get in 21 days. I don’t know how people will respond. I do know I’ve spent enough time keeping it to myself.

So you’ll hear about my attempts while you’re making yours. The steps I take. The places I hesitate. What I learn when something doesn’t work.

I’m asking you to bring the thing you’ve been sitting on. I’m bringing mine.

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Starts September 28 · Parents only · $97 early bird when enrollment opens

Rals
The offer

One thing you care about. Twenty-one days of moving toward it.

Fail Around & Find Out is a guided challenge for parents who want to build Konfidence by taking action on something personally meaningful.

Pick a goal that makes you feel interested and a little exposed. Something you want enough that the possibility of being bad at it bothers you.

You might share your writing. Apply for an opportunity. Take a first step toward a business. Sign up for the class you keep looking at. Put your work in front of someone whose opinion matters to you.

We’ll make the next step small enough to take in your actual life. Then we’ll take it. And we’ll learn the principles of growth mindset and failing forward along the way.

01
Find your thing.
Get honest about what you want, what matters to you, and what you’ve been avoiding. Choose one meaningful project to pursue throughout the challenge.
02
Take a BET.
A Bold, Enthusiastic Test. An action that gives you something real to learn from. Share a draft. Ask the question. Make the offer. Submit the application. You’re trying to make it work, and you’re making room for the possibility that it won’t, so you can learn, adjust, and try again.
03
Get to know the person who shows up.
What happens when you feel exposed? What do you say to yourself after a miss? What matters enough that you want to keep going? Konfidence means trusting yourself, and knowing yourself gives that trust somewhere to begin.
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Bold
E
Enthusiastic
T
Test
The daily practice

Sweat. Script. Share. Repeat.

01 · Sweating
Move your body.

Walk. Dance. Lift. Stretch. Choose movement that works for your body and your day.

Give yourself a little time to move before you spend the whole day in your head.

02 · Scripting
Write your “I am” statements.

Put words to the person you’re practicing becoming.

I am someone who makes time for what matters to me. I am willing to be a beginner. I am someone who can feel embarrassed and still take the next step.

Choose statements you can put into practice. Then give yourself a chance to act on them.

03 · Sharing
Put yourself out there.

Take one step toward the thing you’re scared to do.

Let someone read a page. Ask for feedback. Start the conversation. Show an imperfect version of what you’re making.

Sharing doesn’t have to mean posting on social media. It means letting your project move beyond the safety of your own head.

Some days the step will be small. Some days it will feel enormous. All three practices come back to the same project, so your actions build on each other over the 21 days.

The three weeks

Get to know yourself in motion.

Every week works one part of the Konfidence Bank. Kore Values are the foundation you start from. Kourage, Kompetence, and Kompassion are the pillars, and each one gets a week. By the end, you’ll have a record of your attempts, what you learned about yourself, and a clearer sense of how you want to keep going.

The Konfidence Bank
The Konfidence Bank: courage, competence and compassion standing on core values
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Core Values
The foundation. What matters to you beneath the roles, responsibilities, and expectations. Everything else in the bank sits on this.
Where we begin. You choose your project from what you actually care about.
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Week 01 · Courage
What do I actually want? Choose your project. Name the fear attached to it. Start sweating, scripting, and sharing. Take a first BET while your brain is still explaining why you should wait.
September 28 to October 4. Giving yourself permission to begin while you’re scared.
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Week 02 · Competence
What can trying teach me? Keep working on your project. Let attempts and feedback show you what needs practice, what needs changing, and where you’ve been underestimating yourself. A miss gives you something specific to work with.
October 5 to 11. Developing skill through doing the thing, including the awkward early versions.
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Week 03 · Compassion
How do I stay on my own side? Practice Kompassion when an attempt disappoints you or the old urge to hide shows up. Look at what happened without turning it into a verdict on who you are. Give yourself an honest next step.
October 12 to 18. Staying on your own side when it doesn’t go the way you hoped.
By the end
A record of your attempts, and what each one taught you.
Your Kore Values, written down and chosen on purpose.
A project that’s further along than it was on September 28.
A clearer sense of how you want to keep going.
What’s inside

Here’s what you get.

Everything included in your enrollment, laid out so there are no surprises after you join.

01
A live opening call with me
We begin September 28. We’ll walk through the challenge, choosing your project, and taking your first steps. The opening call will be recorded.
02
Daily content drops in Circle
Guidance, prompts, and principles to support your daily practice and help you take the next BET toward your project.
03
The Konfidence Kode
Seven lessons: Overview, Mentor Mindset, Kore Values, Kourage, Kompetence, Kompassion, and Konclusion. A framework for understanding yourself, taking action, developing skill, and responding to setbacks.
04
A private Circle community
A place to share your goal, post an attempt, talk about what happened, and connect with other parents who are doing this alongside you.
05
My project alongside yours
I’ll be working toward making a children’s book from my poetry and sharing the process as I go. You’ll get the in-progress version.
Also inside: THE KONFIDENCE Kickstart

The entire Konfidence Kickstart comes with it. Use these resources alongside the challenge or return to them afterward.

06
Konfidence for Parents
Mentor Mindset, ways to respond when your child hesitates, and tools for talking about trying, learning, and setbacks.
07
Konfidence for Kids
Ten principles with videos and workbook pages for ages 6 to 9 and 10 to 14. Available for your family whenever you want them. They aren’t part of your daily challenge.
08
Build a Digital Product
A guide to helping your child create something and offer it for sale.
09
The reading list
More than 30 books for parents and kids, grouped by age, with notes and conversation prompts.
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Enrollment opens September 21. $97 early bird.
Who it’s for

Come if you’re ready to try.

You’ve spent so much time being there for everyone else that you’ve lost touch with what you want.
You’re rebuilding after a major life change and want to get to know yourself again.
You want to model the Kourage you encourage in your kids.
You have something you’d like to attempt, even if you can barely say it out loud yet.
You’re willing to make room for daily action and an imperfect beginning.

You don’t need a polished idea, a social media following, or a child who wants to participate. You do need to be willing to take action. The lessons will give you a framework. Your attempts give you something to learn from.

About Raleigh

Hey, I’m Raleigh.

I’m a dad of three, an entrepreneur, and the person who’s been keeping his poetry to himself for the last 18 months.

Being willing to take a chance in one part of your life doesn’t mean you feel ready in every other part. I can talk about Konfidence and still feel unqualified when I sit down to make a children’s book.

That’s part of why I want to do this with you. I want to know what happens when I give this thing a real chance. I want my kids to grow up knowing their dad kept trying things that mattered to him.

And I want to spend three weeks in a room with parents who are ready to do that for themselves.

The invitation

Give the thing a chance.

Bring something you want to do and haven’t let yourself try. For three weeks, we’ll make room for it. We’ll practice the principles of Konfidence. We’ll take Bold, Enthusiastic Tests and learn from what happens.

You don’t need to know whether you’re good at it yet. That’s something you get to find out.

Fail Around & Find Out
$97
Early bird. One payment. No subscription.
21-day parent-only challenge, September 28 to October 18
Live opening call with Raleigh, recorded
Daily content drops in Circle
Sweating, scripting, and sharing practice
The Konfidence Kode
Private challenge community
The full Konfidence Kickstart
Join the CHALLENGE!
Enrollment opens September 21. $97 early bird.
Questions
Things you might be wondering.
What if I don’t know what my project is?
You don’t need a finished plan to join. Bring an interest, an idea you keep returning to, or something you’ve been avoiding because you might be bad at it. We’ll begin by looking at your Kore Values and choosing a meaningful goal you can start moving toward.
Do I need to finish the project in 21 days?
No. Choose a meaningful step you can work toward in three weeks. You might share a first draft, submit an application, make an offer, or begin something you’ve postponed. The outcome will depend on your project. The practice is taking action and learning from it.
How much time should I set aside?
Make room each day for movement, a short scripting practice, and one action toward your project. Some sharing steps take a few minutes; others need more time. Choose a project and daily steps that fit your real life. There’s also one live opening call, which will be recorded.
Do my kids participate?
The challenge is for parents. Your kids don’t attend the call or take part in the daily practices. You can share what you’re learning with them when it feels appropriate. The included Kickstart has optional resources for kids ages 6 to 14.
Do I have to share publicly or post on social media?
No. Sharing might mean showing a draft to one person, asking a question, submitting something, or having a conversation you’ve been avoiding. Choose a step that moves your project forward.
What if I fail?
We’ll work with what happened. What did the attempt teach you? What needs practice? What would you do differently? You can take a result seriously without using it to tear yourself apart. That’s part of what we’re practicing.
What if I miss a day?
Come back for the next one. You can notice what got in the way and make your next step more manageable. A missed day doesn’t require abandoning your project.
Where does everything happen?
Inside Circle. That’s where you’ll find the daily content, the community, and the opening-call recording.
Are guest sessions included?
There are no promised guest sessions. If I add one, it will be an extra bonus.
Can I get a refund?
All sales are final. This is a scheduled challenge beginning September 28, so please make sure the format and timing work for you before purchasing.
Last thing

What if you gave yourself a turn?

For 18 months, I’ve kept my poetry to myself. On September 28, I’m going to start working toward making a children’s book from it, with a room full of parents taking their own chances.

Maybe your thing has been waiting longer than mine. Bring it.

We’ll sweat. We’ll script. We’ll share. We’ll find out what works, what doesn’t, and what we want to try next. Three weeks of getting to know the person you’re learning to trust.

Join the CHALLENGE!
Enrollment opens September 21. $97 early bird.
Until next time,
Raleigh “Trust Yourself” Williams

P.S. You’ve probably told your kid they don’t have to be good at something the first time they try it. Bring that same generosity with you. You’re going to need some for yourself.

“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure that you seek.” J. Campbell